Let’s Talk About Sex: I Hate These “Blurred Lines”

Robin Thickes’ Blurred Lines has been topping the charts all summer long and has even been called the “anthem of the summer.”  However, despite the song’s worldwide popularity, it has been banned by the Edinburgh University Student’s Association (EUSA). This organization claims the song trivializes rape and promotes an unhealthy attitude towards sexual consent.   For the EUSA, apparently non-consensual sex is far from a “foggy” issue – I completely agree.

The main chorus from the song includes the lines: “I hate these blurred lines,” “I know you want it,” and “must get nasty.”

Columnist Brendan O’Neil says, “I’m sorry, but if you look to popular music for moral guidance, you’re an idiot. That’s not what it’s for. Its aim should be nothing more than to make you hum, sing, smile, tap your toes, and maybe even swing your pants. Blurred Lines does that in spades and that is the only basis on which it should be judged. Leave it – and our pop and private lives more broadly – alone. ”

O’Neil is at least partially right.  If we are looking to popular music for any kind of guidance whatsoever, indeed, we are idiots.  Nevertheless, the truth is, as we our humming and singing Blurred Lines in our cars, we are preaching a message to ourselves.  In fact, as we turn up the radio, we are actually turning up a sermon.   I would pose this question: is the music we are listening to “blurring the lines” between right and wrong, especially concerning our sexuality?

Billboard Top 100 does not own sex.

MTV does not own sex.

The multi-billion dollar porn industry does not own sex.

Hugh Hefner does not own sex.

Robin Thicke does not own sex.

You (and I) do not own sex.

Sex is God’s.  He created it for His own glory and for our enjoyment (in the context of marriage). He is the “sexpert.”  However, we often think like the nudist, Don Schrader who said, “If you listen to most religious people talk, you would think that God created the head, the arms, the torso and the legs, and then the devil slapped on the genitals.”  For many of us, even the mere thought of putting “God” and “sex” in the same sentence makes us blush.

But, the Scripture teaches that God created man and woman (and the sexual act that made them “one flesh”) and said, “It is good!” God did not have to create men and women in such a way that they would receive pleasure from sex.  He could have made us like bumble bees where we just go around pollinating each other.   Instead, he created sex as a gift to be celebrated and enjoyed in the context of marriage.

We are living in a sex-saturated culture – a culture that has “blurred the lines” between right and wrong.  Rap-star Pittbull tells us to “Grab someone sexy and tell ’em, ‘hey Give me everything tonight, because we might not have tomorrow.’”  It is true; our last breath on this earth could be tomorrow, and as a result we should live with reckless abandonment toward the purpose for which we were created.  Our purpose in life is not to have casual sex with any sweet talker that comes along.   The Bible teaches us that we were created to glorify God through knowing Him and making Him known.   All of us have failed miserably.  Robin Thicke does not have a clue; there is no such thing as a “good girl,” as he claims in his song. In fact, the Bible says we are all bad girls in need of a Savior.   Instead of worshipping God, we have worshipped His creation.   Anytime we love someone (or something) more than God, we are idol worshippers.  Some of us worship popularity, money, religious activities, and yes, sex.  When we worship anything other that God, our hearts will not be satisfied, and we keep having to come back for more.  We become addicts that can never find the right high.  What happens young women when we “give it all tonight,” as Thicke encourages?

What about the next day? What if you have a car accident that mangles your face, or if you gain twenty pounds?  Will he still love you?

How about when you are old and wrinkly and not able to provide for him sexually anymore?

Will he still desire you with the same passion?  How about when he knows all of your ugly secrets and weaknesses – what then?  Will he stay?

God knows you.  He sees your ugly.  He knows your worst sins that you would be embarrassed to reveal.  And yet in spite of all of your flaws and shortcomings, He still chooses to love.  In fact, “while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Rom. 5:8). Jesus didn’t come to die for us because we were lovely, but He came to die for us to make us lovely.

Additionally, God made you with cravings that would ultimately lead you to Him.  Stop drinking from empty cups that cannot satisfy and only leave you longing for more.  Rather, find fullness in Christ Jesus, the true “living water.”

In order to see through the grey fog of living the blurred lines, we must look to the Word of God – the authoritative Word that is “living and active, sharper than a double-edged sword, judging the thoughts and actions of the heart” (Heb. 4:12).  The Word of God pierces through the lies and blurred lines.  Our sex-saturated culture is humming you a tune about your sexuality, but dear one, your sexuality is not your own.  Neither is your body your own.  Rather, you were purchased; you were bought by the blood of the only Man who was willing to lay down his life for you.  However, lines become blurred when we listen to culture for advice on what to do with our bodies.  God has not given you blurred lines about your sexuality; He has spoken very clearly.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Gen. 2:24).

If a boy is not willing to “put a ring on it,” he is not worthy of your body.  As my husband says, “Ladies, if he loves YOU as much as he ‘likes’ your body, then he’ll give you his last name.  If he won’t marry you, he’s not committed to you” (listen to this sermon at http://www.pleasantvalley.cc).

Let’s trust the One who created us – and our bodies – for an incredible plan and purpose. God proved His unwavering love for you on the cross where He turned his back on His son, so He would never have to turn His back on you.  Jesus Christ paid the ultimate price for you, so that you can turn from your sin that never satisfies and find true satisfaction in Him.  There are no blurred lines concerning His love for you, He died to make it crystal clear.


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